I had no idea what to expect. Ron and I have been living in Portugal now for a year-and-a-half and we spent the last 2 weeks of February visiting Florida. Florida is where we used to live – the state of sunshine and where you can carry a concealed weapon without a permit if you’re over 21. But they’re trying to lower it to 18 because you know, 18-year-olds have such a firm handle on their temper.
Anyway, I have more to tell you about the differences between my new normal, in my newly adopted country of Portugal and my old “normal” having lived in Florida.
When we got back to Portugal, I had a friend here text me to say, “Nice to be home right? Back to just a simple Portuguese life.” And, you know, “simple” is the right word here.
Simple in that Portugal promotes a laid-back lifestyle and feels more peaceful… quite a contrast off the bat – given the divisions and acrimony going on in the United States. Of course, what I’m going to share is my recent experience in Florida, where we used to live before we moved. So, Florida – can be far different than other states we might have visited. But having said that, there were many little things that add up.
Traffic: a world apart
For instance, we spent a lot of time in traffic… often taking 40 or so minutes to get from one place to another for a restaurant or a shop “nearby.” In Portugal, 40 minutes gets us nearly a third of the way across the Algarve (where we live).
In that Florida traffic, menacing bumper stickers and disturbing images – mostly about guns – were never far. Among a sea of gun images, one heckled the trend of self-identifying as something other than a male or female applying it to the classification of firearms, and yet another counted guns as family.
In Portugal, no bumper stickers … in 18 months and driving all over, we haven’t seen one, outside parking decals and the like. Apparently, no one feels a need to make their preferences known in Portugal.
Speaking of driving, we were surprised to see a roundabout or two on the roads where we were in Florida. It’s a new thing there and we were pleasantly surprised. In Portugal, nearly all intersections are roundabouts; it’s a rarity to find a 4-way intersection with stop signs. Roundabouts are not unusual in Europe but really rare in the U.S. Roundabouts do take some getting used to, but once you understand them, they’re so much safer and more efficient than coming to a complete stop or trusting that somebody is going to come to a full stop at a 4-way intersection. If there’s an accident in a roundabout, it’s usually a side hit at a very low speed.
And if you’re crossing the road as a pedestrian in Portugal, even on the busiest of streets you simply look for the marked walkway and stroll across – with the traffic coming to a complete halt (ok with some rare ignorant driver exceptions). In Florida – you live and breathe by a quick calculated dash across the road or push the flashing lights button and wait until speeding drivers decide to stop.
What’s on the table?
Anyone who lives or even visits Portugal knows that olive oil is a staple here. It’s the main agricultural product in the country where olives and olive oil are everywhere. In restaurants, olive oil is usually on the table, and you use it with everything … it’s a big part of the Mediterranean diet. But in the U.S., nobody’s going to serve it without you asking for it (and some places actually charge extra for a dollop of it).
And let’s talk about the crazy prices of wine in the U.S.! A glass of nice wine in Portugal will run you about €3 - 5 (in $US that’s a few cents more). In the states, anywhere from $8 to 12 upwards to $20 for a glass of wine. There was some sticker shock.
And speaking of sticker shock, we did eat out a lot during our visit to Florida, and we were jaw-dropped at the prices. Seriously, we couldn’t get out of a fairly nice restaurant for less than $100 - $120 for the two of us. In Portugal, it’d cost about €60 and that includes a glass of wine or two.
Also, as an aside, almost every restaurant and business in Portugal has wi-fi. And they invite you to use it! I sure could have used that in the States because I needed wifi as I hadn’t made arrangements to use data on my Portugal cellphone in the States. But, other than coffee shops, most waiters looked at me crossed-eyed when I asked for their wifi password.
So there’s my little limited overview of what my new “normal” looks like here in Portugal. It's remarkable how, after just 18 months away from the U.S., these experiences stand out so vividly.
Have you gone back to the States recently and have some observations? I invite you to drop down to the comments section and let me know.
Becca Williams lives in Lagos, a seaside town on Portugal’s southern coast. Contact her at AlgarveBecca@gmail.com.
I've lived in Portugal since 2019. I visited the states in 2021, my husband visited in 2023, and YES!! Total shock. Guns everywhere. Fast food joints galore. Let's not forget the limited world view most US citizens have and as for food, I had a stomach ache after every meal. It's going to take fifty years to fix a previous four year mistake.
By GHastings from Porto on 07 Apr 2024, 22:12
I am also an ex Floridian, now living in Canada. Your article hit home in so many ways. I went back there for 3 weeks in December and felt like I was in shock most of the time. The rudeness, traffic and crime (its a gun culture after all) made me want to leave before my booked return. I hope to visit Portugal one day!
By kathleen deblasis from Other on 08 Apr 2024, 05:33
Thank you again Becca for continuing to write. I have not been back to the US since we moved here in 2022. You have reminded me that we become oblivious to the things we experience daily. Your article made me think of some things that I don’t notice anymore. Here are a few: the absence of out-of-control tipping culture here (unless in tourist areas in Europe); the clothesline seem to disappear now; or how inexpensive a nice glass/bottle of wine here.
My perception of the zebra lane/crossing the street is that in Algarve and in Lisbon, drivers are more observant of making sure that pedestrians have the right to cross first than here in Porto.
By HD from Porto on 08 Apr 2024, 07:31
Thanks for sharing your experience! We have lived in Portugal for just over 2 years and getting ready to visit family in the USA soon. I’ve been wondering how the contrast from our current lifestyle.
By Catherine from Algarve on 08 Apr 2024, 08:33
Well, by that measure, I guess Europeans never get hold of their temper since you aren't allowed to carry guns here for ever. I was a more balanced individual at 12 than some friends I have at 30, so it is really about accountability, but you liberals being control freaks always make it about something else...
By Leonardo from Other on 08 Apr 2024, 09:39
Thanks Becca for the article. My husband and I just got back from visiting our old “home” in Baltimore MD as well as driving to Philly to see family.
To say it was a shock after only living in our new home of Lisbon for one year would be an understatement!
We too had sticker shock as prices of food/drink due to having to eat out while there. (A $39 crab cake anyone?!) We also felt the rudeness of people as soon as we landed in Dulles.
Other things we noticed were the crazy amount of billboards on the highway promoting Christian ideas, like, “Have you read your Bible today?”… I don’t think any other countries ( that I’ve driven through) do such things. It was strange to see so many.
We also noticed how much more stressed out and concerned with our safety we were while there. ( well, yeah, it is Baltimore…)
We hadn’t realized the overdrive of bumper sticker culture there because of being so used to seeing it our whole lives but the kicker you brought to our eyes is the lack of that culture here in PT, and darn, if you aren’t spot on!
Thanks again for sharing your experience. We really enjoyed reading your article and would like to say “Welcome back home” to you and your partner.
Oh, and we just posted an article about our first year’s experience of living here in Lisbon if you’d like to read it. ( it’s on the American & Friends in PT Facebook page. )
By Shirlé Hale-Koslowski from Lisbon on 08 Apr 2024, 10:18
How things have changed in Florida. We lived in the Miami area for 25 years before leaving the U.S. in 2015. Back then you knew guns were around, but it was not such an "in-your-face" thing as demonstrated by the bumber stickers you posted. My observation from our recent annual visit was, besides the high prices, was the tipping. Seems like everyone has their hand out for a tip. It's so much nicer here where a tip isn't expected, but much appreciated.
By Greg Shill from Algarve on 08 Apr 2024, 12:07
I lived in the Lisbon/Cascais area for 20 years before moving to Atlanta. Apart from the fact that quite a number of Americans seriusly questioned my judgment for leaving Portugal for the States when pretty much anybody goed the opposite way, Becca's story very much rings a bell. After 2 years I'm getting used to Atlanta in particular but I'm clearly missing the simple life in Portugal - as well as the winter sun by the way. However, our plan is to retire in Portugal so hopefully in the not too distant future we do cross the pond eastbound.
By ron franken from USA on 08 Apr 2024, 15:26
I'm a legal resident in PT, and have been here since 2019. I'll never go back to my birth country unless it's to visit. Eventually I'll seek citizenship and consider renouncing. America has become a sick place. Morally, politically, and the bottom feeders who prey on the uneducated via the gun culture. It's nice to walk around a grocery store and not have my head on a swivel for the next gun nutjob. PT=beautiful people, country, food, culture and affordable.
By Elle from Porto on 08 Apr 2024, 16:44
We have lived in Portugal fire 4 1/2 years and we are in the states right now. Sticker shock is an understatement the of things totally surprised us even knowing it was going to be more expensive. We love Portugal because if the peace and no stress. Here in the states we feel stressed constantly. The differences between the two are black and white. We will be will not be moving back to the U S. Anytime soon. But it is nice to see family
By Darci from Porto on 08 Apr 2024, 20:23
I was born in Portugal but have lived in the US since I was four years old in 1958. That was the "old America" and I remember it well. It was a nation of Christian values where people behaved well because they were taught morals by their parents and the whole society. But then the liberals came and instituted the 60s countercultural revolution - the greatest catastrophe to ever fall upon the nation. Overnight, the largely God-fearing populace turned into amoral free spirited libertines. And the result is the immoral mess that we see today in America. Lastly, guns are a unique American heritage, inanimate objects with no moral agency. They are to be treasured as legitimate items for self-defense. The only reason why gun crime exists in the US is because the populace is now generally lacking in morals. Farm kids back in the 20s and 30s often walked to school with their 22 caliber rifles and stored them in the classroom with no consequence. So, if you want to learn the cause of the moral collapse of America, look at what the liberals did to create the mess.
By Tony from USA on 08 Apr 2024, 22:09
WOW Leonardo!!! Aren't you the holier than thou judge labeling people who have seen and some experienced the 273 MASS SHOOTINGS in the US last year. A mass shooting is where 4 people are murdered and that doesn't even count the hundreds of others injured that have trauma and physical injuries for the rest of their lives. YOU call people that don't agree with a free for all society with many mentally ill or just unhappy with their lives like you, LIBERALS; how would you even know? Is it because they respect their peaceful lives here in Portugal and the caring, hospitable Portuguese and because they know they're getting ripped off financially in the US with no regulatory commissions for food, drink , groceries and dry goods where people don't even answer you back if you say hello because they're so politically depressed and just walk the streets constantly looking down (zombies) at their phones even at crosswalks and 1/3 of the cars have sawed off mufflers to see who can be more noticed by making the biggest; YOU obviously haven't been but belong there, not here with "the liberals" as you call them. Relax here Leonardo, have a glass of wine and chill; it 4x less expensive OR save your $ for a TAP non-stop flight to Miami and see how the other half dies.
By Brad from Porto on 08 Apr 2024, 22:34
Your article hit home! I live in NC, moved from Florida a few years back. I couldn't take the crowds, hurricanes, terrible drivers overall trend toward lack of common courtesy and the embracing of ignorance as a personal right. Last August I took a 10 day father - daughter - granddaughters trip to Lisbon then Porto and then Lagos. We were struck by the difference in the pace (easy does it), the cost and quality of food and just the ease with which daily life could be! We all reminisce about our vacation and every time we discuss another vacation, it always comes back to "let's go back to Portugal". We are all pretty well traveled but Portugal was just so very special to us! It's probably one of the few places I would consider relocating to permanently. Glad you did it!
By Edward from USA on 09 Apr 2024, 01:12
Well all I can say from reading this is if I ever visit FL then I am buying a gun. And a bumper sticker to tell everyone I have a gun. 'tis the law of the jungle...
By Z E R 0 from Algarve on 09 Apr 2024, 13:26
USA-330 million people. Portugal-10 million. Stop with the comparisons. Everyone values things differently , low cost = poor choice and low quality. If cost is all you think about then you are going to have a miserable life, what about choice, options, diversity? Variety is the spice of life! Stop trying to justify your decision to change countries with purient, click bait articles.
By Stuart Wood from Algarve on 17 Apr 2024, 10:34